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Fat Bastard is my favorite fictional Scottish Character

18 Mar

“Get in mah belly!!!” I’m quite good at reciting this line from my all-time favorite movie series EVER, Austin Powers. I think Mike Meyers is a comedic genius and that trilogy has been making me laugh for as long as I can remember. My brother and I used to entertain the family with lines from the movies while we sat around a campfire roasting marshmallows. Good times. And while I can very succinctly replicate Fat Bastard’s accent, I am a big failure when it comes to copying my fiancé’s Scottish accent. I always seem to sound British cockney or Australian, Irish, or just plain mentally ill. However, my interpretation of his accent is always good for a laugh and last night while drinking beers with our friends who were in town from Minnesota, we came up with the moronic brilliant idea that at our wedding, the Scottish should thank everyone in an American accent, and I should thank everyone in a Scottish accent. That way our toasts will surely be memorable.

It got me thinking less about my venue stress and more about how I want to incorporate as much Scottish tradition into the wedding as possible. Thanks to Best Friend, I found a website called “Scottish Wedding Dream,” and finally have found some time to explore it and since I was exploring I thought I would share my findings with you, my readers. Below you’ll find a few gems that I figured were worth sharing in a segment called Traditions Part One.

All quotes are taken from here: I hope you like Tartans.

Traditions Part One
Handfasting. I love being engaged and I love that I get almost a year to prepare for marriage and to enjoy my final days of being legally single before I commit to the love of my life. Back in the medieval times in Scotland, they had a similar engagement period known as handfasting. It’s essential marks the start of a “trial-run” of the marriage and the bride and groom’s hands are tied together with a cord or cloth of tartan pledging themselves to each other. One year and one day later they decide to either stay together and have a wedding or to separate. And being very egalitarian about it, either party could decide not to go through with it. My favorite reason behind handfasting is this:
“There were practical reasons for this arrangement. Children were needed to work in the father’s trade. During this year, the bride’s fertility, or lack thereof, could be determined.” So basically it’s like the modern-day couple living together before getting married, but without birth control since the goal is procreation. OH how times have changed.

Surnames. The whole idea of taking the man’s last name is such a personal thing that I don’t think any woman should feel bad no matter what she chooses. Some feminists consider changing your name to be a step back for women everywhere, whereas some conservative brides consider it a disrespectful act to keep your maiden name. I don’t care what anyone else does, but I have decided to change my name. To me, it’s a symbolic act that outwardly shows the joining of my life with the Scottish. Plus, my mom took my dad’s name, and it makes me feel good to follow that tradition. Why should me taking my future husband’s name have anything to do with my views on gender equality? I still am who I am regardless of my last name, and I plan to become famous either way. 🙂
On a peculiar and interesting note, Scottish tradition states that it’s bad luck if couples share the same first letter of their last names. It is eloquently explained in this rhyme:
“To change the name
and not the letter
Is to change for the worst
and not the better.”

Umm, yea, doubtful… BUT I am going from an “L” to a “C” just to stay on the good side of my Scottish luck. 🙂

Stag and Hen Parties. Translation: Bachelor and Bachelorette Parties!! WHOO-HOOO!! Since I’ve known the Scottish he has always referred to his big event as a “Stag Do,” and it makes me feel inspired to call my upcoming girl fest a “Hen Do.” Why the heck not?? Apparently, embarrassing the groom goes back a looong time because tradition states that the groom had to carry a basket of stones on his back while walking through town (called Creelin’), unless his bride were to give him a kiss, then he could stop. What fun that sounds like… I suppose it’s not much different from the “Let’s get the groom so completely trashed and make him do stupid stuff” that happens these days. Pretty sure my Scottish would prefer to get drunk before being embarrassed.

They say the Hen Party started because people used to bring gifts for the bride-to-be’s upcoming wedding feast (sort of like a Bridal Shower?), and often times these gifts included hens. Then a few days before the wedding everyone helped pluck the hens and prepared them to be eaten. While I love the idea of having a “Hen Do,” I’m gonna go ahead and say right now that I prefer lingerie and kitchenware to poultry.

That’s it for now, but there are so many more traditions to discover. One tradition told to me by FMIL is to add a bit of white heather to your bouquet for good luck. I think that’s my favorite one so far!!

Is anyone else incorporating their heritage into their wedding planning? Or has anyone seen a cool wedding tradition in action? If so, what are they?

Quote: “The judicious bride saved these special feathers to stuff future pillows and comforters for her home.” Scottish Wedding Dreams Website

BTW I am a MOH and B2B and this post is WR

7 Mar

My title translated says: By the way, I am a Maid of Honor and a Bride-to-be and this post is wedding related. Are you confused? ME TOO. I have succumbed to the pressure of writing with wedding jargon and man oh man is it not only addictive but also kinda crazy. The abbreviations are supposed to be time savers for planning and note-taking purposes and of course, for bloggers like myself so we can get right to the good stuff and instead of spelling out future mother-in-law, simply write, FMIL.

When I told my mom that she was a MOB or Mother of the Bride, she told me that makes her sound huge, I’m assuming she’s associating MOB with BLOB or some other fat name. MOG or MOther of the Groom doesn’t sound any better!

Then of course the Scottish has many names to go by which depending on my mood, I might use interchangeably. He is my FI or Fiancé, my FH or Future Husband, and of course G2B or Groom-to-be.

I am excited about this one: OOTG because we are going to have so many of them, Out of Town Guests, that is. And HM or Honeymoon and RD or Rehearsal Dinner might come in handy down the road as well. Hopefully we all know by now that DIY is Do-it-yourself and that’s gonna be the name of my centerpiece game. And to make things even more confusing, BM can either mean Bridesmaid or Best Man. What? I know!

My favorite wedding abbreviation has to be STD or Save-the-Date. Ha.

In other WR news, (see how this works?), I am a little stressed out because I had to push back my engagement photos a full month due to the Scottish being in Scotland longer than we had anticipated. It’s not fun when you have no control over things and his visa stuff is something that is so far out of my control that I can barely see it! The good news is I love LOVE the photographer we have chosen and am so excited to take these photos! Plus, this new schedule gives me more time to work on our props! Oh yes, props are the new thing in engagement photos these days and I’m super excited about all our ideas.

And finally in NWR, (Not Wedding Related) news… I took a Pilates class today and my gimpy leg was kind of strugglin’. I am glad I went and I’m hoping I can continue to work out more as the weather gets nicer. Pre-engagement weight loss was a grand total of 10 lbs. Now onto Pre-Wedding weight loss and toning up! Damnit this was WR!!!! Ooops. 🙂

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